Ronit is a class 7th student at KFI Valley school, Bangalore. His parents are running their business which keep immensely busy. Ronit though not of age is in love with his classmate Neha. He sees the meaning of life in Neha. Every little things he discusses with her, she means everything to him. When she is not around he get depressed, lonely and sometimes even get seizures.
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Is this the side effect of love?
Does this relationship has a future?
Is Neha also madly in love with Ronit?
Does this ‘couple’ at the age of 12-13 even know the meaning of love, relationship, marriage, possessiveness?
Ronit’s parents brought him to our expert. While talking to Ronit for sometime he realised the thing Ronit longs for companionship, someone to talk to. As his parents have been super busy he got that support from Neha.
Our expert asked Ronit what he sees in his life when he grows up. He said Neha and himself living in a beautiful house. They have a beautiful life where both of them are supremely happy. He drops her to work and then goes to his office.
With every session our expert tried to focus more on details of his dream so that his subconscious believes in it. They tried convincing him that if he won’t focus on his studies, priorities now, how in future will he manage to own a beautiful place. Studies are important and so is his sports to look handsome and remain fit (he dreamt of handsome him!). Expert never meddled in his relationship with Neha but gave him the direction to focus on other priorities too in life. Not only him, parents were asked to spend additional one hour talking to their son daily.
What happened then?
He did not change over-night but he did start seeing things objectively, in a different light. The professional showed him the path to achieve his dreams, which in turn gave him a purpose and motive to live.
Now Ronit is in 9th, still with Neha but more focused on studies, extra-curricular and no signs of depressions and seizures.
Note: This story based on real life cases handled by Clinical Psychologist Jini K Gopinath. We have changed the names to maintain anonymity.