Being in a relationship is beautiful. To have someone to share and care and stand by you is a feeling that can never be compared. Of course, each of us wish to have long lasting relationships and a little bit of ‘my partner is mine’ sometimes can be beautiful. It gives a secure feeling to your partner ad a feeling of being important and wanted. But then if you go all crazy and jealous over everything they ever do and every person they ever talk to and think they are just yours, sorry guys you are slipping into being the super possessive partner.
I am pretty sure you might have already fought over this fact a hundred times before you read this article. But if you are just beginning to act like what I am going to list below, you are becoming a possessive partner and you got to change something about yourself.
- Controlling where, when and whom to go with.
- Trying to stalk their day to day activities. Checking their phone for messages and looking for an explanation behind every text.
- Having to abide by your wish all the times. You start nagging them and annoying your partner every time things don’t go the way you want it to.
- If you are the clingy kind and have stated to define the friend circle your partner must have. Also if you that person who begins to break all personal space and boundaries and tries to interfere and judge every aspect of your partner.
- If you are that annoying person constantly texting even when you know your partner needs that time out.
- If you control their dress and makeup every time.
If you are doing any of the above, then realize your possessiveness is the poison to your relationship. An initial sense of mine might sound very cuddly and comfortable, but as days go by and your relationship matures it begins to pressurize your partner and kill their love for you.
Realize that the person you love is the person you fell for in the beginning and trying to control every aspect of them will change them. As much as you show your partner your love for them, an equal amount of trust to establish is a must. Understand that unless this is your partner`s first relationship a history of others is irrevocable. Get in terms with the fact and also the idea that they are with you because they choose to step out of the past. Bringing back the past and forming judgments about them is little irrelevant to you.
If you happen to be the smothering partner then it is high time you change for you have given a hard time for your partner already. There is a thin line that cuts between protective and possessive and do get that clear. And if not you are ready to change then consider yourself to step out of this relationship and wait till you are ready to change. Because trust is the base of a relationship and when you lack to give that you have nothing better to offer to your partner.