“One day she discovered that she was strong and that not even she could hold herself back because her passion burned brighter than her fears.”
One strong impact that our thoughts can have on our mind is to let us doubt our own capabilities. This is precisely what Ritu (Name Changed), 32, had experienced right from her school days.
“I’ve been a high performing student throughout my life but somewhere between school and college, I started doubting my own capabilities. I wasn’t sure what I was doing.”
What bothered Ritu, a PhD Scholar at the country’s topmost IIT, even more, was her hesitation to express her opinion among people.
When there would be a good number four to five people around me who were either my equivalent or brighter than me, I’d tend to become quieter.
During her school days when Ritu was just in 7th standard, her unwillingness to stand out was so strong that she believed in making a calculated effort that was just enough to get her what she apparently wanted.
“I remember how I used to tell my mother that I don’t want to study more because if I do, I knew that I’d secure a top position and for that, I’d have to go and collect my prize and that’s something I can’t do.”
As a result of this hesitation, Ritu used to study just enough to secure 4th or 5th rank but not the top position. Little did she know that this was only going to pull her confidence further down.
I’d feel that I wasn’t good enough. I’d become over-protective of my relationship with close friends thinking that I might make them go away due to my insufficiencies. This would make me cling to them even more and in turn annoy them.”
There was this constant voice inside Ritu that told her that she’s always right and that people around her must stand up to her expectations, causing disagreement and irritation. But what further disappointed her was her coming back to a calmer state and realising that everyone has their own point of view.
This constant tug of war between her emotions would at times put Ritu in a confused state that she didn’t like and decided to connect with a YourDOST expert.
“After years of my push-pull relationship with self-doubt and overthinking, in 2019, I connected with my first YourDOST counselor, Ms. Anagha Madhusudhan. She helped me with the very first thing I apparently needed the most – focussing on myself. Additionally, she also suggested small exercises like journaling, saying positive things to myself, etc. so that I can start focusing on myself again.”
While Ritu started inculcating her Expert’s suggestions into her life, she also had to travel a lot for her PhD case studies and couldn’t continue her sessions regularly. Fast forward to 2020, the nationwide lockdown came into effect and so did Ritu’s irritation while working from home.
During the lockdown, I switched jobs and while working remotely, my frequency of getting irritated at people around me gradually hiked.
The confined environment and work pressure made Ritu act at the behest of her irritation.
“My sister-in-law and I would mostly work together at home and unintentionally, I’d end up getting irritated with her for small things. Even to a response from her, that was as simple as Hey, you’ve done this wrong, I used to get extremely annoyed and say things like I don’t want to live with you.”
None of us like venting out on our loved ones. But at times, our situations can put us in a tough spot. This guilt affected Ritu too and the day she ended up letting her irritation out on her niece and nephew, she knew that she had to fix this part of hers.
“I used to feel guilty and get angry at myself because of what I’m doing to my family. My niece and nephew especially were very young. They couldn’t even understand what I was going through. This was the breaking point which made me realise that I need to seek help.”
At this point, Ritu decided to connect with an Expert again and this time, it was Psychologist, Ms. Bhagya Yalkar who turned out to be just the right fit for her. With her help, Ritu came to an understanding that she might be experiencing Imposter Syndrome, something that she had been affected by for a long time.
As Imposter Syndrome can make one doubt their skills, talents or accomplishments and cause a persistent fear of being perceived as an ‘incapable’ individual, Ritu was now able to connect all the dots.
I’m a very curious person, always scrolling through information to know more. After my sessions, my husband did our parts of research and realised that yes, this could be the issue with me.
Ritu’s tendency to lose focus from herself due to all the overthinking about her own capabilities finally had meaning. With her counselor’s guidance, she was able to rationalise her negative thoughts.
“Throughout my sessions, Bhagya ma’am used to patiently listen to every little detail of what was happening and then ask me to incorporate small exercises and refer to certain articles to help me understand myself better.”
One exercise that Ritu really liked was one of self-appreciation wherein she had to write and categorise 40 achievements of hers.
“I listed my achievements down, one by one, which felt good. It was as simple as writing something good about myself or moments where I helped someone or even bigger ones like when I won a gold medal in my Bachelor’s for scoring the highest marks and a scholarship to Europe which I was awarded in my Master’s. These are very dear to me.”
As Ritu went on writing such good things about herself and categorising them based on whether they were related to academics, relationships or good habits, she could feel her inner spark reignite.
“The main purpose of this exercise was to remind me that I’m capable. I just forget it sometimes.”
For Ritu, talking to Bhagya was like talking to a friend. She could define her issues and comprehend the fact that Imposter Syndrome happens to a lot of people, especially people who are achieving a lot as they, at some point, start believing that the outcomes aren’t because of their efforts but mere luck.
“I’ve seen a positive improvement. I don’t really obsess over negative thoughts as compared to earlier. This is a good thing for me. I’ve become more patient not just with myself but even with people around me – my husband and the younger ones too.”
The new patience that Ritu proudly wears now has helped her rediscover the very meaning of relationship building –
If someone is behaving in a good way with me, I should too. I’m in a much better place now. I’m thankful to Bhagya ma’am for that.
For people who feel stuck and let things get worse, Ritu strongly recommends them to come out and seek support –
“Don’t stay in the dark, at least find out what’s wrong. Think of your expert as your friend and try just once. It’s your wish whether you want to continue or not but at least try to understand what’s going on with you. You’ll be able to make an informed decision about yourself.”
As someone who truly values comfort and connection, Ritu says that she found both at YourDOST –
“I am really grateful to be in IIT as it is only in this way that I could come across YourDOST and my counselor. While speaking about your issues, it’s important that you’re in a comfortable place and the fact that you can talk to experts online, right from the comfort of your home gives you a sense of control over the situation. I’m glad about it.”
Are you someone who has gone through a difficult phase and emerged stronger and better, with some professional help? Share your story with us to encourage thousands of others who might be struggling. Click here to submit your story.
Ritu’s Warrior Tips:
1. Don’t stay in the dark, at least find out what’s wrong. Think of your expert as your friend and try just once
2. It’s interesting to see that our mind doesn’t accept positive thoughts that easily but negative thoughts, that’s smooth.
3. It has worked for me and it surely will work for others too.
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슬롯 머신
“하인은 명령에 복종합니다.” Xiao Jing은 자연스럽게 그것이 무엇을 의미하는지 알았습니다.
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잘 터지는 슬롯
Zhu Houzhao는 눈을 가늘게 뜨고 “말하세요, 할 말이 없습니다.”
샌즈 슬롯
“빙… 전쟁부에서 들었다.” 주후조는 약간의 죄책감을 느꼈다.
더 트위티 하우스
황제가 왕위에 오를 때마다 수십 명의 왕자와 군왕이 위임됩니다.
슬롯 머신
Zhu Xiurong은 순종적으로 고개를 끄덕였습니다. “모든 것은 여왕 어머니에게 달려 있습니다.”
슬롯 신규 사이트
Liu Jian이 말했습니다.
슬롯 정품 사이트
Hongzhi 황제는 감동을 금할 수 없었고 그의 눈에 눈물이 흘렀습니다.
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Li Dongyang과 Xie Qian조차도 약간 눈살을 찌푸리며 너무 많이 느꼈습니다.
공짜 슬롯
이때 스페인인들은 군사적으로 전성기를 맞았다.
슬롯 무료 스핀
이제서야… 누군가 사업 기회를 포착한 것 같습니다.
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메가 슬롯
Hongzhi 황제는 무표정으로 말했다 : “군인은 쉽지 않습니다.”
배트맨 와이즈 토토
그 돈으로 대학을 재건하고 수리할 수 있으며 새 학교 건물을 지을 수 있습니다.
토토 검증 사이트
Fang Jifan은 다시 확인하고 긴 숨을 내쉬었습니다.
문 프린세스 100
Hongzhi 황제는 위의 거대한 47 호를 보았을 때 당황하지 않을 수 없었습니다.
레거시 오브 데드
이때 홍지 황제는 큰 슬픔에 빠졌습니다.
라이징 슬롯
Li Dongyang은 눈살을 찌푸 렸습니다. 총서기는 왜 그렇게 무질서한가요?
5 라이온스 메가웨이즈
충수가 잘렸을 때 Hongzhi 황제는 그것을 시도했습니다.
슬롯 꽁 머니
믿을 수 없다고 생각했지만 Liu Jian은 문제가 매우 중요하다는 것을 잘 알고있었습니다.
슬롯 무료 쿠폰
한 순간에 수많은 사람들이 무릎을 꿇었습니다.순식간에 고구마죽 한 그릇이 사라졌다.
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Hongzhi 황제는 서둘러 “이 기념관을보십시오. “라고 말했습니다.
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Mi Lu는 “폐하, 첩의 남편은 전사 일뿐입니다. 그래서 …”라고 말했습니다.
카지노 슬롯
Hongzhi 황제는 이빨을 비비며 “그럼 무릎을 꿇고 일어나지 마십시오.”
미스터 슬롯
이야… 이 때 적시에 비가 내리면 참 좋을 텐데…
슬롯 5 만
그것이 지금의 방식이며 변경할 수 없습니다.
문 프린세스
“그게 다야.” 황태후는 “아이 가족이여, 차를 마시자.”라고 말했다.
럭키 네코
죽음과도 같은 그의 검소함까지 더해 채널 딜러들의 의구심을 증폭시켰다.
마종 웨이즈 2
이것은 성전에 있는 방백들에게도 해당되며 그의 지역 부모에게도 해당됩니다.
5 래빗스 메가웨이즈
Xiao Jing은 매우 느리게 낭독했지만 곧 Jinshen Hall이 폭발했습니다.
5 라이온스 메가웨이즈
이것은… 역시 사람들의 상상을 초월합니다.
슬롯 게임 사이트
그들은 모두 멍한 얼굴을 하고 웃었다. “오, 안녕, 안녕.”
슬롯 모아 무료
인근 의사 수백 명이 한 달 간의 교육을 시작했습니다.
슬롯 추천
Fang Jifan은 항상 그가 가져온 것에서 뭔가 빠진 것이 있을 수 있다고 느꼈습니다.
블랙 맘바
이제 류씨의 가족이 백작을 얻었으니 이것은 조상 무덤에서 나온 연기가 아닙니까?
슈가 러쉬 X마스
어려움이 닥칠 때마다 그를 심술궂게 만들었습니다.
더 트위티 하우스
Zhu Houzhao는 너무 화가 나서 반쯤 죽었고 화를 내며 말했습니다. “당신은 너무 고집이 세군요.”
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그들은 또한 감정을 가지고 있으며 그들 자신과 동일합니다.
에그벳 계열
전쟁부 장관 Ma Wensheng은 그것을보고 즉시 누군가에게 그를 궁전으로 보내라고 명령했습니다.
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그러나 다른 사람들은 그 말을 듣고 안도의 한숨을 내쉬었다.
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그냥 운이 아니라… Fang Jifan은 천재입니다.
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Hongzhi 황제는 곧 흰 옷과 가면을 쓰고 걸어 들어 왔습니다.
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그는이 Fang Jifan이 베이징에서 악명 높은 이유를 알고 있습니다 …
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그는 폐하를 만류하고 싶다는 말을 감히 하지 못하고 그냥 모든 신하들을 끌어냈다.
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素晴らしい記事!読むたびに新しいことを学びます。
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“Xueshi Wang이 말했습니다. 아직 몇 개를 사야합니다. 확실하지 않으면 칠 것입니다.”
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とても役立つ情報で満載です。感謝しています。
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그들은 기술자 그룹만큼 전투기 그룹이 아닙니다.멍하니 병원 침대 앞에서 방황하는 많은 사람들을 보았다.
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며칠을 기다리니 파기름 냄새가 뱃속을 채운다.
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밖에서 매니저는 주인을 걱정스럽게 바라보았다.
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사실… 정부는 황제와 여러 사람의 특징을 설명하는 공지를 올렸습니다.
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“Wang Xueshi, Wang Xueshi…너…넌 정말 모두에게 상처를 줬어.”
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実用的なアドバイスが豊富で、大変参考になりました。
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Liu Tianzheng은 깜짝 놀랐고 그의 턱은 충격으로 떨어지는 것 같았습니다.
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그는 차가운 표정으로 앞에 있는 빈 책상을 가리켰다.
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Fang Jifan조차도 Wang Shouren을 질투하는 표정을 짓지 않을 수 없었습니다 …
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그리고 이 모든 것은 사실 조국개혁에 대한 비밀 논의가 유출된 것과 관련이 있습니다.
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폐하와 Liu Jian에게 설명 할 방법이 정말 없습니다.
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7시가 되자… Qi Zhiyuan은 어쩔 수 없이 숨을 헐떡였다.
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Fang Jifan은 마음에 약간의 고통을 느꼈습니다. “전하 …”
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Fang Jifan이 들어 오자마자 공주는 그녀의 눈에 복잡한 표정을 짓는 것 같았습니다.
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とても役立つ情報が満載で、実践的なアドバイスがありがたいです。
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그는 말하면서 유리병을 꺼냈다.
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이 생각이 떠오른 후 Hongzhi 황제의 심장이 두근 거리며 더 이상 참을 수 없었습니다.
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この記事が大好きです。とても参考になります。
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Zhang Mao는 큰 놈이고 그의 생각은 매우 직접적이므로 …
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この記事は本当に心に響きました。素晴らしい内容です!
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그리고 이제… 수년간의 노력이 마침내 결실을 맺었습니다.
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