“Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.”
-Winston Churchill
At some point, we all find it difficult to make a decision. We might be extremely confused or worried about making a mistake. Adarsh Birendra (DGM – Deputy General Manager) who is 42 shares his story about how he got over his fear of making decisions and failing.
Decision-making was something that I always used to ponder on.
Adarsh found it a little hard to make a choice or to decide on one particular thing. For long, he had been pushing things to the last and procrastinating as well. Whenever it was completely up to him to make a decision and no one else was involved, he felt that he was responsible for both success and failure based on his decision. Of course, everyone will be proud if they succeed, but imagine if it is a failure, it can be really hard to take all the blame. This was exactly what Adarsh was going through. He was scared of being questioned by everyone else. Adarsh later realised that it was not his decision-making that he was afraid of but the fear of failure itself. He would tend to ask others also to help him in making a decision.
This is where he felt that he might need professional support and he reached out to YourDOST. His counselor made him realise that unless he gave it a try he would not know if he could make a decision. “She said – Go for it.” With a lot of help through therapy, he slowly realised that he didn’t have to constantly worry about what others might say. He was very comfortable with his counsellor and he was able to eventually open up to her about most of his issues and gathered positivity.
I cannot control other people’s thoughts. What I can control are my own thoughts.
His counsellor also asked him to look into what went wrong when he failed in any task that he did. He was asked to maintain a journal to track what his thought process was. He started writing down his thoughts and he discussed these with his counsellor. This helped him identify his thought process. He also started opening up to others more compared to before. He slowly started taking everything more positively. He realised that failure is part of the journey and that he can learn from his failures. “If I fail I will get up again.”
Unless you open up, you will keep killing your potential.
Adarsh, through his experience, wants everyone to know that each of us will find something hidden in ourselves that we might never be aware of but can figure out while opening up to a counsellor. It also helps you figure out how you can get better at what you are doing. Adarsh is proud that he is being a good example to his kids as well. “I have to be a better version of myself.” Everyone is responsible for themselves and so it is important to take the step to seek help for themselves.
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Adarsh’s Warrior Tips:
1. Always try to be the better version of yourself and sometimes it is okay to seek help to make yourself better.
2. Failures may come and go but learn to stand up and move forward again.